A Life of Adventure

Why are Chinese women looking for Western men? What’s the attraction? A typical shallow answer could be : money and a non Chinese passport.  I have to admit that there are some Chinese women with this in their mind. However, they do not present the majority of Chinese women nowadays.

First, let’s take a look at the reality in China. If you ask a Chinese man ‘what is your first requirement of  a future girlfriend or wife?’ I can assure you that 90% of them will say ‘a beautiful woman’.  It seems a tradition in China that men must have a beautiful woman so that they can impress their friends/colleagues/acquaintances etc. Even walking down the street with a beautiful woman on his arm is something to be proud of. A man who has an ‘ugly’ girlfriend or wife might reluctantly go to public places with the woman and feel embarrassed to introduce her to his friends. Why is their vanity so strong?  This definitely has something to do with the so called ‘Face’ . According to one Asian scholar, Ting-Toomey (1988), ‘face’ is a ‘strategy that protects self-respect and individual identity.’ Losing face could mean losing respect from other people. Other people’s opinions are so important to Chinese people that they can not be ignored. Having an ‘ugly’ girlfriend or wife shows that the man is incompetent in some way. Gaining a beautiful woman’s heart is regarded as a challenge which is to be encouraged by men. Whoever wins a beautiful woman is a hero, or so he thinks. It is not uncommon to see Chinese guys who have pretty girlfriends or wives showing off their ladies’ pictures in public forums on the internet . The title would normally be ‘ Check out my beautiful girlfriend(wife)’ etc. The man who posts his woman’s pictures would be highly satisfied from compliments by the public. Most Chinese men would deny that they regard their women as accessories. However, they do to a certain extent.

An interesting social phenomenon in China is, if a woman is divorced or a single parent, no matter how beautiful her appearance is, she would be what people called ‘second-hand goods’ which are mostly unwanted. Even the man himself does not mind the woman’s past, however his family would mind. The pressure from his family will often force the man giving up on the woman.

What about a girl who has never married? Well, she has to be careful if she is over the age 28 as she is considered a bit old for most Chinese men of the same age.

It is shameful that most Chinese men haven’t realised that this is very unfair for those called ‘second hand’ or ‘old’ women. They are actually the most beautiful women in my eye. They are more mature; They have experienced some ups and downs in their life; They have probably made some mistakes in their love life before so they know what to do to make a relationship work better. They are just like a good wine, They mature and become gracious with age.

For women who are married to Chinese men, they usually have a common fear that the husband will find someone younger and prettier outside of the marriage. Nowadays it seems popular for married men to have one or more mistresses in China .

In 2008 an online questionnaire of love and marriage was completed by 9021 Chinese men and 5002 Chinese woman. Most men and women chose ‘No’ to the question of ‘Do you believe in eternal love’; Most men chose ‘No’ to the question of ‘will you be loyal to your marriage?’ and most women chose ‘yes’ to the same question; Most men chose ‘ I can somehow find the balance between my wife and the mistress(es)’ to the question of ‘what will you do when there is a possible affair’ and most women chose ‘ I will be stick with my husband and family’.

The divorce rate in China is rising rapidly. There have been more than 1 million Chinese couples divorced every year since 1995. Almost 50% of the divorce cases are due to affairs. Chinese women are famous for their strong family values and loyalty. Unfortunately, more and more Chinese men don’t appreciate those qualities anymore.

So now, what’s the attraction of Western men to Chinese women? Chinese women appreciate honesty in a relationship, a virtue which many Chinese men are lacking. Western open-mindedness makes Chinese women feel more secure in the relationship. The inbuilt competitiveness of Chinese culture especially in the workplace places an unnecessary amount of stress in a relationship. The shallowness of male Chinese thinking regarding their lifestyle is more pronounced.

Most Chinese women are looking for a loving caring relationship and to have those feelings reciprocated. Normal human emotions between 2 people need not be judged by nationality.

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Want to catch your cheating girlfriend in the act? Get the proof and set the trap!

Your girlfriend is likely confident in the thought she won’t get caught. She’s been pulling the wool over your eyes for a long time, and by now she thinks she has the whole thing under control. Wrong!

You WILL catch your cheating girlfriend. Catching her red-handed will leave no room for doubt.

In order to do this, you need some information. Who is her lover? Where do they meet? How do they make their love affair work? Take your time in getting the proof. Use GPS trackers, spyware, voice recorders, whatever it takes to determine what your girlfriend’s plans are.

Then set your trap.

Does she talk with her lover online? Pay attention to their “real time” plans. Using your spyware tricks, find out what they are talking about and where they intend to see each other. That will give you the chance to catch the lovebirds in the act.

If they meet at a particular bar or restaurant, you could just “happen” to walk in at some point. If she doesn’t see you, sit back in the corner and watch what happens. If she does see you, ask her point-blank who her “friend” is, and why she felt it necessary to lie to you about where she was really going.

Do they usually meet each other at a hotel for a lunchtime quickie? Find out where she goes, and when she is going to be there. Show up and park down the street, where she won’t recognize your car – or borrow a friend’s ride.

Stay in the lobby, where you are surrounded by people. When she walks into the lobby, give her time to retrieve a key or room number. Then step forward and ask loudly, “Where are you going?”

You’ve just caught your cheating girlfriend red-handed!

If you think your girlfriend is catting around with more than one person, or having a series of one-night stands, employ some of your friends to help you catch her.

Find someone you trust, who will help you set the trap. When she says she’s going out with her friends, send your friend there, too – with the goal of hitting on her and trying to make her go to bed with him. If she’s willing, then you know she’s cheating on you. Your friend just caught her for you!

It takes a little bit of time and patience, but you can catch your girlfriend in the midst of her affair. We can show you even more traps to catch your cheater in the act!

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